Online Dating from A to Z: Getting Some

Welcome to the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge. This month I’ll be working my way through the alphabet, one day at a time, on the subject of Online Dating. If you’ve never visited my blog before, I’m happy you’re here! Be sure to check out my previous A to Z Challenge posts and the books that were inspired by them for more alphabetical fun.

G is for Getting Some.

Whether this means full-on sexy times, the most chaste of kisses, or just a decent conversation, online dating is all about getting some.

So how do you get what you want? And how do you make sure all parties involved are happy with the outcome?

This, my friends, is where we discuss the topic of Consent.

To me, no human interactions are truly pleasurable nor fulfilling without some form of consent, indicating that the exchange is a two-way street. Indeed, a simple version of obtaining consent is used at MENSA conventions (among others), where all attendees color-code their nametags with red, yellow or green stickers – just as you’d find on a traffic light. Red indicates that the person wearing the sticker is not open to physical contact (hugs, in particular), yellow means that the wearer would prefer to be asked first (“May I hug you?”) when approached by strangers, and green indicates that the wearer is open to all forms of affectionate contact from any and all sources – so hug away!

Naturally, there are plenty of other ways to obtain consent, including simply asking the other person if they are interested in doing X, Y or Z.

Assuming that consent has been obtained (and yes, this should always be a prerequisite for proceeding!), here’s a short story about how to get what you want from a first date.

Photo by Mira Bozhko on Unsplash

Once upon a time I met a very cute guy on an adult website. He had posted some very hot XXX pictures of himself on a forum devoted to such things, and my friend and I had been ogling him with interest. He was not only hot but also very charming and witty, and we persuaded him to come visit us.

My friend and I both flirted with this guy fairly heavily while we were out and about, enjoying dinner with friends, followed by drinks and dancing, and eventually even sharing the hotel sauna together.

Somehow, we wound up back at my place, trying to keep our voices down because my roommate was asleep in the next room. There were four of us, and this guy and I had been giving one another the sexy eyes all night long. I now found myself sitting on his lap, eager to take him to bed after a long night, and yet my friend and another guy were still with us. How to get rid of them?

If you’re a clever guy, as this guy certainly was, you’ll suggest another place to continue the party, then surreptitiously lag behind as the other two put on their coats and winter boots. When they exit the front door, you’ll grab your girl (in this case, ME), shout “Have fun, kids!” and slam the door on them. Then, you’ll whisk your lover up into your arms and deliver the kiss she’s been waiting for all night long.

To keep this story PG-13, I shall conclude the tale there, and leave the rest to your imagination. (And if you need a little more to fulfill your cravings, please check out my Erotica page for some temptingly tantalizing tales!)

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  • NameRed

    I had a friend who loved going out to bars/clubs with me. She was in a relationship but loved watching me fail because “I have no game.” Specifically, no follow through.
    Now, I’m just glad those days are behind me.